The Silence Of Men

Lets start with this line " I am a father i sold my dreams so that i could buy everyone's dreams. Listen to me sometimes my beloved children -my tale, my story. And definitely ask me, where did my youth go which was once full of colors" 

 Men don't cry 

yeah, it started from this same sentence but is it true?

Living under the burden of being a man is not easy but with time, men learn how to make it crown covered with thorns ( in a simple word responsibilities).

On many occasion, i have tried to talked about this topic, and it ends up sounding taboo. 

Why it is taboo and why can't men can in front of those whom they (men) care for and crave respect from them not sympathy?

I will answer this later but first men are creatures who see everything in advance(overthinker). This  means if they (men) is trying to talk, he just wants a listener. To avoid this scenario,  they hide it and deep down that small issue will haunt men for very long time. Some let it out with anger, and some try try to escape through bad habits. 

And why don't men cry of show their weakness or soft corners to anyone? Because the moment men start to express their anxiety, fear or pain for that moment they might feel someone's empathy-but no longer respect. The tag of a weak man sticks, and that feeling feels heavier than any weight. 

A man says:

 The pains (sorrows) that are in heart-if  i say them, my tongue will burn; if i keep them in my heart, i am afraid they will burn my ribs and bones.

Men are providers, protectors and shields, which are fine, and these roles are what make men in our culture emotionally strong. 

I get this question a lot:

"Have you ever experienced depression or how you deal with mental health issues?

My answer is. "Responsibilities".

That is my strength and antidote for depression.

But still men's mental health is something that needs to be discussed more. 

To all of my kind (men):  it is fine to be vulnerable, to lose, to cry, feel unsafe. Don`t be hard on yourself, it is ok to fail, it is ok to be sad someday. You don't need to be positive everyday.

Life has two ends:

One is Birth and one is death. Both of them are not in your hands. Even if one of  them were in your control, you might have managed. So all you have is the middle-live it and go with the flow.

Khat (Letter) from a Father

This letter is for you 

There are few things in our life which we often feel but never express, i also have something on my mind but i don't think i will ever be able to say that to you all that is why i am writing this letter.

Can't figure from where i should start?

We all have limited time and however we might have, it always seems less, and you can become what ever you want to be, everyday do something new, learn somethings and understand something new, don't doubt in anything and gain experience and experience is valuable, it means experience everything but don't get addicted. Experience will help you differentiating right from wrong, it will prevent you from committing mistakes but don't be afraid of committing mistakes because only those who do something remarkable make mistakes, remember to take responsibility of your mistakes and try to rectify them.

learn to forgive others. No one likes to commit mistakes, it also means be as lenient to others as you are to yourself, love everyone unfortunately love is very spare in this world and everyone needs it.

Love and respect is something everyone need you will need it too.... don't hesitate to ask for it and don't hesitate to show it..

Life is very short the moment you get to know it it will be at it's end.

Express your feeling it is purest form of you, it can melt stones and burns the hate. 

Laugh deeply and always cry hard like a baby you are vulnerable, let the childishness be alive within you that will be something which should not change in you.

Think about future but don't worry about it......

Think about past but don't lost in it......

In life there will be good and bad day, remember don't boast too much when the days are good and in bad day don't lose hope.

Don't give yourself all the credit for your success and never blame others for you failures.

Just keep going and spread happiness the world need a lot.  

     

Compare yourself

Why do i prefer  this a fair click ?

It expresses lots of emotions of frozen kids.

Since i was in Afghanistan in refugee camp and bunch of kids came to me, with ideas that i am here to give them something for winter such as clothes and food, but unfortunately i was there just to do survey for university project.

These kids with much hopes started to show me their living condition and it was very distressing, and the joy in their eyes hit me so hard, then i decided at least i can do something for them, so they asked me to click their frozen hands  and it will be enough to convey the message.

At the present time the entire world is constantly comparing themselves, it has became so important to show others that " I am Happy " rather ourselves.

Showing others that i am content take lots of efforts compare to ourselves. 

Most of us spend our lives to make others happy, those who became happy were not mine and those who were mine didn't become happy.

In to this endless race, only way to win , is to lose it.

 The finishing line would be, if you want to compare your situation then do it with people less fortunate that is when you will taste contentment, and nothing is sweeter than being content. We will be able to see how happy and fortune we are specially at this present days.

Door to peace

A second interpretation of World ( Dunya ) from my perspective by using these characters which i will explain.

1.chasing lion 

2.Deep well

3.Long Rope

4.One black rat and one white rat

5.Beneath of deep well an alligator 

6. Somewhere in deep well a door which leads to a safe house

7. Honey beehive 

So i ´m hanging in deep well on a long rope and right in front of me is a huge honey beehive with sweetest honey,  honestly every bite we take from it make us delusional about what actually happing around.

Definition 

1.Chasing lion (Death, the fact that always chasing us until gets us)

2.Deep well (Our lifespan)

3.Long Rope (Our age that we are hanging on it in this deep well)

4.One black rat and one white rat (Black rat is night and white rat is day which are eating the rope slowly)

5.Beneath of deep well an alligator (Our last destination hell if we don´t find the door)

6. Somewhere in deep well a door which leads to a safe house ( Our last destination heaven if we find this door)

7. Honey beehive ( Eventually the today ´s life) that full of delusion, sweet lies which keep us so  busy consuming it that make us forget the fact that death is chasing us in deep well, we are hanging, at same time the day and night rats are eating the rope which is our lifespan, so before i fall to beneath i need to use the rope to find the door to end up somewhere peace.

The question that i always ask myself is what is more important, the slavery of our ego, lust, greed, hate,power, injustice or actual door which lead to peace without harming anyone?

Feeling of unhappiness

A feeling of unhappiness or jealousy, it sound really dramatic but i believe that nowadays it have seem to be usual, not because we are evil but we doubt the tune of our ability, to be assure i will add that we compare our self with those who have been blessed with fortunes, fortune of someone which might look so luxurious from outside, which remind me of a line " everyone can see that how successful i have become but none can see my feet's abscess ".

So if i measure myself with some who is in good status then me, i will feel depressed and unhappy which can change it to jealousy but i if do it other-way around in a good sense, it will lend me a hand to feel gratitude. 

I feel sure each one experienced these feelings but as i always say we are not white or black, we are gray.

White as in all time positive, happy, grateful, soft-spoken.

 Black as in all time negative, sad, ungrateful, harsh.

Gray as in we are kind of in between which inferior in stage of mind where in all occasions we remind our self that i might be in good circumstances than someone who is not able to walk, speak or sightless, this kind of compare is healthy, it educate us in great amount and lead us to being grateful and so on to from feeling of unhappiness to HAPPY.   

C is Between B and D

 Life is a journey between B and D,

B is Birth and D is Death, but C is in between? what is C?

C is choice, a Choice to suffer or not to suffer.

why most of time when we get hurt in life no matter what it is, career, relationship, love or anything why the pain is not going away even if it happened long time ago.

I have been asked once that why pain never finishes. I believe the question is wrong, the question should be,

 when the pains will get reduce, the answer is when you stop touching the wound every day, the wound will keep getting fresh and it will keep hurting you.

Now you have the (C) choice that do you want to suffer or not to suffer, feel hurt or not to get hurt.

For example, if someone from China or any other country that I don't understand the language comes and start insulting me, what will I do? Umm ... I don't understand him, so I won't mind him maybe he is saying I have good hair style or asking me something.

The conclusion is that will I take/accept his word and allow myself to get insulted.

Inspired from Life.

 

 

Villain VS Hero

Most Important part of any Movie or Story is the Villain, which is always stronger then our Hero but still at end Villain Loses.

but today i  try to go a bit deep,

lately i Watched a Movie called Joker, in which a man who is quite caring and friendly, innocent but under some pressure and torture of society, job and family.

i will stop here so i can  explain  the point,

In real life the flashback of a Hero and a Villain are very same like the sadness, struggles and so on but
the only thing which is different is the way they both react to society and situations.

Their are  two factors,
first Forgiving and
second is revenge

Easy one is to take revenge so the villain chooses it and react ,
but the one which is brighter and make one a hero is forgive and to  makes a decision that i won't allow the circumstances to change my reality because we are all hero of our own stories, being a hero is tough to become that why most End up being Villain.
a line which fits in this i don't know the name of one who wrote
"I am not what happened to me I am what i have choose to become"

the moment of deciding is when the bad things start happening,
but  it is time to choose the route,
like most people who goes through Heart break , divorce , financial crisis.
they can have that  moment when they decide i will work hard on  my self  to come out of this because they won't allow the situations to dictate their now and future.

the biggest answer for them is not to hurts themselves and society, it is to forgive and get out of their reach.

Forgiving is glory of Hero.
Revenge is sign of weakness or Villain.

Inspired 
 



    

Memories

I have come across with a couple, who were deeply,  madly in love for five year with tons of lovely memories and  some small fight in which  both of them hurried to say sorry to erase the gape,

But Dark clouds have touched the five years of  wonderful Moments, while he was sharing his emotions to me he ended up asking WHY WHY WHY.
My friend he was telling me how hard is for him to cope with the memories that had together, he close the eyes and feel the freshness of her and in minutes when he open eyes all he have is Nothing because they had a lot of time spend together and tons of moments that he thought he can carry on with them when ever she leave him but now the memories has been hard for him to handle.
Memories are only thing that  can bring smile in our face but if two individuals own it and in a time one leave, then it can be more than a burden.

same just a mile second before the angel of death comes and snatch the soul out of the cold body, that person is able to see is all life in that one mile second in fast forward all he have to say is I WISH I GET A CHANCE.
This is the words which my friend spits  everyday,.
 Overall memories are beautiful and ugly but if you still have someone in your life with whom you can create beautiful memories and with whom you can reduce the ugly memories so you are LUCKY so don’t wait for that moment that you repeat those word (i wish) .
Express and Don’t let them go
Because.....
Life is a Book that you didn’t read the other pages yet.

Dunya (world)

Dunya (World) is a question about lose, disappointment, being let down, seeking  something and comeback empty handed.
It’s like what happens when you try to dig in concrete with bare hands.
Not only you will comeback with nothing but break your fingers in process.
I learned this from trying again and again because nature of this Dunya(world) is a Temporary attachment as place where people are with you today and leave or die tomorrow.
And this is the reality which hurts because is goes against our nature so we as humans strive for what is perfect and permanent which is not possible.

Nothing happens without purpose not even broken hearts or Pain.

Pain: it self is a pointer to our attachments which makes us cry.
I thought love for this Dunya (world) is only being attached to materials so i was not attached to Materials so it won’t apply on me but i was attached to humans, Emotions and Moments which are also part of Dunya (world) so  i was wrong.

Live in Dunya, World, Life  but don’t get attached to anything or any Emotion or moments because it is Not perfect and permanent.

Focus on haves

Human gets complete with three things.

1:  "Mind" from which we think

2: "Heart"  from which we feel

3:  "Body" form which we act

The mind: person can not be healthy and happy unless  manage the way of the thinking,

Focus is One of the most important thing in human 's happiness ,  their is the concept of what ever you focus on, it grows or expand  and that is why we find some kind people  that are problem focused,

It means that in any given situation the will pick up the problem and that will become their focal point.

And that leads to anxiety and they can't not cope with  their minds,

Reason: if they focus on problems, It grows and they will start to become bigger and bigger then the  bigger it gets they will be surrounded with problems and the can become frustrated.

 

Explaining: Two boys in a picture  up and down.

At the top a boy with a  piece of cake and happy 😊 And beaming for holding only one piece,

Then below him another boy and he is holding entire cake only one "piece" missing and he is sad 😔,

Now the boy on top is happy because he's  focus is on what he have which is a slice of cake and the one in bottom is sad because he's focus is in what he doesn't have which is only one piece.

Now the boy in bottom has more cake and still he is sad because his focus is different,

The one in the top his focus is on what he have so he is happy. So the concept of happiness focus on what and who do you have with you.     Inspired 😊😊😊😊😊😊😊

CONCEPT OF LOVE

Most underrated word "LOVE"
Love actually decreased percentage of heart attack  in women and thanks for their tears,
And increases amount of sad and dramatic Facebook post on men's wall in which they share such love emojis that even I start missing their EXs 😜.
At school  which teaches people how to suffer and act victimized,
A love which get changed trough  time is only lust for controlling emotionally which the best feeling in some point of views.
Love is pure  but now a days it is as complicated as my maths Homework the more you go deep to solve never get solved.
As one of my friends told me he was excited that he found true love and he feel butterflies inside him and I told him how easy for you to find true love in my case when I wake up in morning I can't even find my pant 😄😄.
I'm not against love but what I feel most people get confused between love and like and this confusion build  another confusion.
Love is about sacrificing, more giving then taking, patience and most important not changeable.
It's more feeling less expressing and most important it doesn't require a day so I am totally against Valentine's Day because it belongs to those who need a reminder and the love that requires reminder not worth celebrating.

Angels on Earth

life is amazingly beautiful  that is why everyone is so attached to it, with the fact that human  in this life is surrounded with extra amount of problems.
That is why God gifted mankind three angles.
First angle comes as DAUGHTER.
The light of any house is daughter, compared to sons actually daughters only once who can understand the pain behind fake smile of her parents and she will be the one who can save her parents from Fire which might come to their souls.
Second angel comes as WIFE,
The one who will complete the husband and that why she is called sheld of her husband,
In any successful marriage wife plays role of peace, any husband will feel peace after having a look at his wife.
Third angel is the most Beautiful word In entire universe "Mother".
One who is expert in multitasking, Mother is somone that happened once and it won't repeat again.
In this stage for this angle the whole paradise comes under her feet. Actually  God put paradise to Mother 's hands and just to hold her kids she put it down.
We might forget her but she never forgets us.

So in my point of view we can't  specifically only one day for the. Because our whole life is surrounded  with these three angles, our days should start to wish them and end to thank them.
We have to respect them if she is in stage of DAUGHTER, WIFE OR MOTHER.
IF YOU HAVE THEM THANKS THEM AND EXPRESS YOUR LOVE TO THEM.

Nothing is black Nothing is white Eveything is Grey

Facts that humans are srounded with Uncontrollably desires, unhealthy competition, failure, Drug, sadness and end with Depression.
They are all connected to each other and actually we are in a big war within our Mind, human beings have strong mind if once get control over it then can change world, but if the mind start controlling us then it's start of our end,
 Don't let your mind own you it is you who should own the mind.
Basically life is full of problems if we deal with each other, and problems are like an awful weather. Standing under rain will get me wet
Weather is not in my control but I can build shelter.
Secondly if your facing failure, it's doesn't mean you won't succeed, actually getting fail make you work hard and value your small success and every successful person has overcome lots of failure yeah worst fact that no one take about their failure but success.
Desires should be in our control otherwise it can convert to greed, in this stage just try to meet and experience  people who are living in worst conditions but still greatful.
Sadnesses and depression comes with overthinking, the concept is clear if you want to get out of sadness so just accept the truth and move on don't stick.
 In conclusion
Don't Ruin happiness with worry
Don't Ruin mind  with pessimism
Don't Ruin success with deception
Don't Ruin today with yesterday
Life is short don't shorten with sadness and worry.

USE BUT DON'T ABUSE

Technology  made the life so much easy, that is what everyone says these days.

Totally disagree,
I agree it made life  easy in certain ways, and we should not ignore it has also effect a lot.
Because  once an idiot create technology now a days technology is actually creating idiots,
Fact that we can't ignore that technology really took people so far from people, such us some examples that we see daily.
Start counting from home up to work everyone  is looking down to see the hight of sky which is not able.
We didn't just forget way of living life but we became slave of the technology, we have smallest information about world but we actually don't know who is living in our neighborhood.
Technology has connect the world. True but technology also disconnect humans from families, actual life because our phones become our oxygen mask without phones hard to breathe.
Try to survive a single day without your phone then you can see the change.

being mute (typing) heads down.
" Swipe to find match  "  but no love.
Free call but don't have anything to say.
Lots of information but no one to reads.
Moments save in phones memory but our system memories card is empty.
In short technology (phones) has made us effortless,

We are not in contact with our old friends so Why do we start adding  new friends ?
We have became prisoners of our phone that is why we called it cell phone.

Don't regret and don't become prisoners of your phones use in good way.

Our Misconception

XXXTentacion a singer who just died.
These days when we get words of these (young) celebrities dying, a lot of us get so upset because we think  " they're too young to go".
But we are all under misconception that we're all going to live up to 100 years old.
If you were supposed to live until the age of 20 & you're 19 years old,that's 95 % of your life.
If you're 18 years old, then that is 90 % of your life.
Remember death doesn't care how old are you!
Death doesn't care about what race you are , death is not racist, it won't see your skin color,
Death will just come and take you when you time is over.
This should motivate us when we see people like this (XXXTentacion) should motivate us to not procrastinate.
To not waste any time. And to be good human beings and to draw closeness to our creator, family, friends,wife, husband.
most importantly do not procrastinate!

Reminds me of a close friend of mine who used to say "I will " and that later just because of the ego which was controlling him,
He never expressed his feelings towards his creator, family, friends.
Used to say " tomorrow " but he didn't knew life is full of surprises, and he can't make up to tomorrow.
Who knows their might be no tomorrow, to say ( sorry,love you,forgive me,forgive you,)
Don't let your ego kill your or anyone 's innocence.
spread love we are already srounded  by hate, competition, jealous, greed.
Before death touchs you complete your tasks. 😊😊😊😊😊😊

Beautiful view

Today i was walking around the lake to find a place, and to observe some thoughts from silent nature, each drop of rain that touch the sea.
With lots of questions i close my eyes took a deep breath and i see the sky under my feet in the water reflected.
after looking for long  in water i realized that why we are trying to find beauty in everything somtimes our veiws makes it beautiful.
 The real beauty is inside of all but instead of expressing we act like slave of society,
Sometimes hard to understand our souls language and suddenly we start thinking about other view how they will react, which make us same like them
be original, don't waste your time to be perfect because being perfect is impossible
the more you try the more society expect.

Think big but try to live in small moments these small moments makes life full of beautiful memories,
Don't ever wait for big things to show Up your celebrations.
there is no tomorrow,
So live your life today with love and humble.
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Positive Vs Negative

Once a joker said a joke to his audience for the first time and everyone laughed so loud,
He said the same joke for second time less of audience laughed and when he said the same joke for third time nobody laugh at all.
The he said a pleasant thing,
If you can't get happy over and over with one same happiness, then why you cry over and over one pain?

When ever you get sad  it means you accepted a lie as truth.
What is difference between pain and sadness?
Pain mean physical pain which exists but shall I get sad because of that pain or not this is on my hand.
Sadness is untouchable but our mind tell us to feel bad about something which has happened,
My boyfriend has left me so I 'm sad  so is it worth being sad just because of somone 's action.
It was a lie that I accept as truth and living in that and punishing my mind is not worthy.

So if you're positive understand the reason of having and losing of somone and if you're negative you hold yourself in that moment which killing your mind.

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Maintain balance

One morning papa came, woke me up and said "Yahya"
"I m going to teach you how to ride a cycle today"
The moment I stepped out a brand new cycle waited me, when I saw it and my inocent mind stared jumping up and down,
But as I noticed the absence of training wheels my excitement came to a standstill so on the small seat of that small cycle I placed my small bum push down on the peddles the wheels started turning and staggering and my cycle move forward which me very happy joyful, I wanted to turn and tell my papa " look Dad, I've learnt how to cycle "
But dad was standing far behind and seeing him far away, scared me
The fear made me cycle swerve and stagger again
And for the first time, I fell down
And my bum which was earlier well placed on seat was now flat on group my dad came running Gave me a smile, picked me up and took me back home,
So next day I decide today I will get over this fear so I started riding my cycle at a great speed
My dad kept screaming from behind " son you're going so fast  slow down "
"Look, there is a pothole a head of you ....... You will crash into somone..."
But all of my dad 's advice had somehow vanished in the face of my speed, the still wind, has suddenly started kissing me and I had started to fall in love with this wind speed but then all of sudden my feet slipped from pedal, cycle slipped and I came crashing into the ground and for the first time, I cried and my knees bled but what was really injured me was my pride
Dad came running towards me he picked me up, without smiling this time
He took me home and said
"Don't ride the cycle tomorrow." But now I wanted to ride the cycle
The next morning I got up before the sun took my cycle off stand and rode for miles
Took a turn and came back home without falling,
This morning I was the one who woke up dad  narrated the story with lots of happiness and in end I said"look dad, I learnt cycling "
Dad smiled and said " son you're not only learnt cycling, but you've also learn how to walk on the road of life "
He told me how the handle was our focus
The padal is our hard work
And moving cycle was our success
Which was moving on the road called life
He made me understand that many times, I'll fall because of the speed of my pride and the padal of relationships but I have to get up and make the cycle stand again and continue my journey until death comes on my way...........
Life demands moving and you will go far in your life..
🙂🙂🙂🙂🙂🙂Inspired 

Happiness

feeling sad and down can be extremely tough, but it is natural for humans.
So what isn't natural?
Answer: staying in that state for long time.
So here are 3 ways to bring you back to happiness.
GRATITUDE: No matter what the situation, but there is always a reason to be greatful, even in worse time when we have a huge lose in our lives, all we need to remember that is could have been worse then this and also we need to think of the many blessings that we still have in our lives. Being greatful will take the sadness away from the sadness of what happen to the happiness of what we still have.
GIVING: It has been scientifically proven that giving to others makes us feel good and alive. It doesn't mean that is should be something big gift or big money, it can be something small and easy like kind behavior, sincere smile, nice compliment or being kind.
Giving removes the sadness that we have to the intention of making others happy, which in return makes us happy.
GO BACK TO ALLAH:

AND ALWAYS REMEMBER AND LIVE YOUR EVERY SINGLE DAY LIKE IT IS YOUR LAST DAY ON EARTH:
Express your love, seek forgiveness, beings kind, donate smile, be helpfull, share the happiness and divided others sadness.



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Today 's life

Life have many stages, In every stage we learn something, wish something, love, lose something but still we won't realize the more we gain more we find ourself lost in it, then we will lose interest in facts of life.
If we look back we can see changes in our characters, strength, feelings, relationships and knowledge.
Knowledge that never inspired someone, character that nerver exposed to someone, strength which was surrounded by fears, feeling which was not expressed, relationships which never get placed in memories, and this can't be called beautiful life.

These days we can see things are getting expensive such us houses, cars, trips, brands, over all our need, but in other hand things getting cheaper such us humanity, respect, love, honor and the very cheapest  is human being 's life. And the worst thing is that we all know about this bitter facts, we can't  change these unless we don't kill our greed, ego.
Greed can't be only for money, every one of us have our own so find it.
We are running so fast in a race that we left behind our everything, everyone and at end of this race the death will be winer not we so why we should not make it a morning walk and live every single moment with peace and love and full of memories?

Personally i learn a basic thing from my school 's first day.
The more i ask myself the more it open my mind with a bright picture of life, then i can decide better for me and all beautifull souls because no soul born with negative mind it 's so called us who became the reason.

One last thing in this world we can find many different kind of animals and the strangest of all is called human.
Because once a dog said "A good quality of humans is speaking/ talking / language with used of this they can tell their thoughts, messages, feelings about their thinkings and make each-other understand but apart from all these their is lots of misunderstanding in them".

Life have small moments join them spread them and make them beautiful life full of good people and memories.💐💐💐💐💐