The Silence Of Men

Lets start with this line " I am a father i sold my dreams so that i could buy everyone's dreams. Listen to me sometimes my beloved children -my tale, my story. And definitely ask me, where did my youth go which was once full of colors" 

 Men don't cry 

yeah, it started from this same sentence but is it true?

Living under the burden of being a man is not easy but with time, men learn how to make it crown covered with thorns ( in a simple word responsibilities).

On many occasion, i have tried to talked about this topic, and it ends up sounding taboo. 

Why it is taboo and why can't men can in front of those whom they (men) care for and crave respect from them not sympathy?

I will answer this later but first men are creatures who see everything in advance(overthinker). This  means if they (men) is trying to talk, he just wants a listener. To avoid this scenario,  they hide it and deep down that small issue will haunt men for very long time. Some let it out with anger, and some try try to escape through bad habits. 

And why don't men cry of show their weakness or soft corners to anyone? Because the moment men start to express their anxiety, fear or pain for that moment they might feel someone's empathy-but no longer respect. The tag of a weak man sticks, and that feeling feels heavier than any weight. 

A man says:

 The pains (sorrows) that are in heart-if  i say them, my tongue will burn; if i keep them in my heart, i am afraid they will burn my ribs and bones.

Men are providers, protectors and shields, which are fine, and these roles are what make men in our culture emotionally strong. 

I get this question a lot:

"Have you ever experienced depression or how you deal with mental health issues?

My answer is. "Responsibilities".

That is my strength and antidote for depression.

But still men's mental health is something that needs to be discussed more. 

To all of my kind (men):  it is fine to be vulnerable, to lose, to cry, feel unsafe. Don`t be hard on yourself, it is ok to fail, it is ok to be sad someday. You don't need to be positive everyday.

Life has two ends:

One is Birth and one is death. Both of them are not in your hands. Even if one of  them were in your control, you might have managed. So all you have is the middle-live it and go with the flow.